We can all agree that when we were younger, some of us had a little deviant behavior in us; some more than others.
We had some major ball busters in Windsor Terrace. I can sit here all day and blog about them. We also had some good people. People you liked to hang around.
As we get older, or more mature, we tend to see things a bit different; the type of car we drive, the house we live, and the company we keep. With that comes the way we behave on an every-day basis.
How you behave towards others is a reflection on how you were raised. If you know anything about personality disorders or even a bit of psychology, you learn about people and their ‘acting out‘ behaviors. I’m talking about the types of behavior you were exposed to at home. It’s quite common. Someone seeks attention because they never got it at home so outside they have to act the part. Someone was treated like shit at home by their parents, siblings or cousins and they go out into the world and treat people the same way; they think it’s the norm.
The people who talked the most, complained and argued were usually the ones who were begging for attention (remember those people?)
Critics fall under this category too; they become jealous and bitter so their only way of doing anything is to lash out. It’s a normal reaction to defend ourselves and our behavior when someone criticizes us. I have been doing it for years. I still do it; but it’s gotten a bit better in terms of lashing out at the critic. I step back, see who is criticizing and ask myself, ‘who is this person’?
Take a look at the person that is trying to get everyone’s attention. Trying to make you feel bad. Trying to drag you down because you are living a decent life.
So please stop trying to get attention the next time you are hanging out with others. If you are jealous of the co-worker who got the promotion or the raise in salary, try sending them congratulations instead of talking behind their back.
The world is filled with certified cynics and amateur ball-busters. Let’s try to keep things positive, easy-going and treat people the right way.