Last night a friend wrote something on Facebook that caught my attention; I thought I should share it. (Not even sure if they read the blog)
“Sometimes in your life you choose to settle instead of being truly happy. Shame on you and me; we all deserve to be happy…”
Think about that for a minute.
Looking back at my days of growing up on 9th avenue in the 70’s and 80’s I settled; settled for what they told us. Settled for the way others thought it should be. Settled for giving up, for quitting and not pushing through hard times.
Were we inspired to reach for the stars? Were we pushed to greater heights by people who cared about our future? Were we told how important it was to make a commitment; to stick with things when things didn’t go our way? Were we encouraged to pursue our calling in life that would help us along our journey?
How many times were we yelled at by the teachers at Holy Name of Jesus as young children? Hit by our loving educators with long, wooden paddles. Yikes! Screamed at by the adults who were supposed to teach us life’s golden rule from 9AM until 3PM. Thank God for the schoolyard, because that’s where I learned about life.
In school we were told not to get out of our seat, that we couldn’t go to the bathroom or even get a drink of water until THEY said we can do it. (I recall a girl peeing right there in her seat because a certain teacher wouldn’t let her go to the bathroom) Imagine that happening today?
What happened when we stumbled and failed; was someone there to help us up? Or were we laughed at? Ridiculed and said, ‘he’ll never make anything out of his life‘. (Someone once said that about me…)
In 1993, when I was 29 years old I stepped out of my comfort zone and found what I was looking for for so many years. When I explained to my late mother Carol that I was moving to Michigan she replied, ‘Why are you moving to Michigan’?
I then told her I was going to college.
“Why do you want to go to college?”
The one thing I do know is we are not born winners or losers; but rather we are born choosers. We all have chosen to live the life we have done so for many years. We try things, make mistakes and live with our results.
How we respond to failures is what shapes us. But never forget, it’s important as adults that we try and help the younger generation. We may not be able to change them, but we can improve them.
You may be asking, ‘What the fuck is he talking about’?
Do whatever you want to do with your life! Live your life to the fullest. Be happy with what you do, who you are and be happy with your decisions. If anyone tells you it’s not done that way, screw ’em! Do it anyways!
I’m talking about being happy for who you are and what you do; regardless of what others think or even say! Your religion, your political views, damn, be happy about your sexual preference!
The minute you stop listening to other people on how you should live your life, that’s when you start living!
When I was a kid I wanted to play in the NBA. I also wanted to be a sports writer. Did anyone inspire me and tell me I can do those things? Nope. Do I hold anyone responsible for me not reaching those goals? Not at all. It was a choice I made as a young, ignorant, teenager. What I’ve learned as an adult is to reach out and inspire as many young adults and children as possible. I try and motivate, inspire and encourage as many as possible. Most have it in inside them, it just needs to be pulled out of them.
Jon Stewart said when Bruce Springsteen performs on stage, he ‘empty’s his tank‘.
Empty your tank, don’t settle, don’t hold back-you can do it…